Like every other holiday, Valentine's Day has done a fine job of increasing our stress levels in every possible way. But as annoying as it might be to walk into a mall the day after New Year's to find Cupid himself pointing arrows at you in every direction, Valentine's Day also gives us a chance to do things a little differently than we have in the past.
Alison James, a public policy major at Princeton University and a social policy graduate at the London School of Economics, said Valentine's Day is an excellent opportunity to reflect on the important things in life. As the author of an intelligent and humorous break-up guide, \I Used to Miss Him... But My Aim is Improving,"" James taught her readers how to turn weaknesses into strengths.
""The holidays give us a chance to remember the people and events of our lives in a positive way and forget about the negatives,"" James said.
If you dread Feb. 14 because you do not have that special someone in your life, it is important to remember this: Though it might seem as if everyone around you is in love, while the birds fly overheard in twos and even the nerds in your lecture have girlfriends, the reality is that many people look at Valentine's Day as an opportunity to share time with friends and family.
While it is important to remember that Valentine's Day is a celebration of love, it is also possible to put a unique twist on things and make the day one to remember. Many holidays get built up so much that it is inevitable that it is not going to be as exciting as it is cracked up to be. Though one cannot stop Valentine's Day from coming, people can change their attitudes about the situation. Do not lose sight of what the holiday is really about, but have a little fun with things in the meantime.
Some tips James delivers on both how to avoid a letdown on Valentine's Day and how to make the holiday fun and memorable are sending out cards to people you care about-mom or dad, siblings or friends from high school that you have lost touch with. Planning a party with friends and leaving significant others behind for the day can be a good idea.
Also, James said it is necessary to take the opportunity to show yourself a little affection. Sleep in, eat junk food, pretend you are sick and skip events you dislike.
But most importantly, have a little fun. Stick that ex's photo on a pink pi??ata at the party and give it a swing. He or she will most likely found out, James said.
To find out more information about James' survival techniques regarding relationships, visit her websites at www.10women.com and www.improveyouraim.com.
